Mind Healing Counselling

"I don't want this," the person's entire being may be screaming. This does not sit well with me. This is excruciatingly painful. It is a formalised paraphrase.

This is, of course, entirely understandable. We wish to put an end to an unpleasant experience. When we are nervous or depressed, acceptance may be the last thing on our minds. Acceptance, on the other hand, can be very important for coping and recovering from mental anguish. How is this possible? Let's take a closer look at this.

Acceptance is vital since it is difficult to do anything helpful about anything when we do not accept it.

Acceptance can be a necessary condition for genuine engagement and transformation to occur.

Assume that two pals are driving to a football competition. Suddenly, the car hits a pothole and develops a flat tyre. "Hey, looks like we have a flat," the passenger exclaims frantically to the driver. We appear to have a problem". Now assume that the driver accelerates without skipping a beat and answers, "no, we haven't!"

These people now have two problems: a flat tyre and a driver who refuses or is unable to accept the circumstance. This lack of acceptance in this case will exacerbate an already awful situation. As a result, acceptance lays the framework for gaining perspective, rolling up one's sleeves, examining the problem, and finally seeking assistance and answers. When we have a clear picture of the situation and how we (and others) are contributing to it, we can dig in and explore what could assist.

Another reason why acceptance is the necessary shift is so that we can begin to make peace with something painful and difficult to endure, something that is a true loss for us.

Life is full with losses, both major and minor. The Covid epidemic has exacerbated this in a variety of ways for people.

In order for it not to become a destructive condition, loss requires acceptance and a period of grieving and adjustment.

This entails acknowledging the loss and gradually letting go of what has been lost. Acceptance for what feels completely inappropriate can sometimes be part of the grieving process. This is a really challenging undertaking. Painfully persevering in refusing to mourn and accept anything might cause further suffering on top of the initial loss.

Acceptance is also vital for healthy mental health since it can serve as a pathway to compassion for oneself and others.

This is frequently critical for healing and progress. When acceptance is out of reach, it can become a barrier to self-compassion for oneself and others. If acceptance is difficult to obtain, it must first be negotiated before proceeding.

A fourth reason why acceptance may be beneficial to our mental health is because as humans, we are all bound to experience painful emotions as part of our human condition.

And sometimes we inherit notions that we "should not" feel certain emotions - that it is unsafe, embarrassing, or that we are somehow "weak," "bad," or unlovable. It is possible that the sensation is not only painful, but also intolerable. This is a significant distinction. In other words, we have a strong sensation and a strong feeling or attitude towards that strong feeling, which rejects the feeling and rejects us for having the feeling. Reflection on how we got stuck in this trap is worth our time...

Another reason why acceptance is vital for our well-being and moving forward in our life is that it forces us to confront the fleeting nature of reality. Everything is subject to change. This too shall pass. This is how it is right now; it will not last forever. Nothing is ever.

"This is how it is for now," a therapist I knew used to say. "I don't enjoy this scenario, but it is what it is for the time being," she says. It served as a valuable reminder to me that no matter how bad a mood, experience, or situation is, it will pass.

Accepting the inevitability of change may be a very strong antidote to distress, as well as a form of relief.

There are undoubtedly many other reasons why acceptance is critical to our mental health. Here are possibly a few to think about today.