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If this is the case, you might be living the life you think you "should" rather than the one you want. This creates a struggle inside the person, which can show up as Anxiety, Depression, Panic Attacks, or just a general feeling of unease and sadness.

The feeling that you "should" do something comes from the lessons we all got as kids from adults and the places we grew up. For example, if you went to a very intellectual school where the focus was on working hard to get good grades, go to college, get a degree, and get a good job so you can make a lot of money, this can be a problem if you value freedom, travel, and spending time with people you care about.

We can take in information about how to be successful. Money is important to many of us; the more we have, the better. Success might mean something different to you, like having a good mix between work and life so you have time for hobbies, friends, family, or travel. It could be that it feels good to have made something.

It can be hard if you feel like you're letting people down by making the change. Maybe you have buried your true goals so deep that you no longer know what they are. If you do what your heart tells you to do, you might lose the support of your family, partner, or other friends.

How can I make myself feel better?

If your life looks good on paper, but you're not happy with it, try:

• Figuring out what's really important to you and what your ideals are. Some examples of values are responsibility, success, risk-taking, feeling like you belong, compassion, excellence, freedom, modesty, sensitivity, stability, and many, many more.
• When you were younger, what did you like to do?
• Does any of the above go against what your family, school, or social group believes? What doesn't go together?
• What would you have to admit or give up in order to follow your dreams?

So, if money is the most important thing in your family, what does it give you? Power, significance, and success. What makes those things so important to you? Does it make you feel good about yourself and like you've done well?

If you love being outside, you probably won't be happy working in an office. You might be happier as a tree surgeon, farmer, builder, or tour guide. But if "status" is everything, this might go against what the family stands for.

When your personal ideals and how you live your life are at odds, you may feel conflicted and unhappy. Life is often about making trade-offs, but only you can decide if the trade-offs are worth it for your happiness.

This piece is just one small example of why you might be unhappy even if your life looks good on paper. It is meant to make you think and think about yourself.

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